Precious Fingers

On Monday my two year old somehow stuck her fingers through the tri-fold style doors on our entertainment center and then tried to shut the door.

She started screaming.  The other kids started yelling.

I came running.

I said a prayer.  I could get her index finger and her pinkie finger out, but the middle two were so stuck I couldn’t figure out how she got them so far in to begin with.  Every small movement of the door, in either direction, made her scream in pain.  I tried to lubricate her fingers and work them out that way.  No luck.  They were stuck fast, and turning purple.

I ran to my husband’s office to get a screwdriver, realizing that the only thing to do was to unscrew the hinges and take the door apart.   It was no easy task to work the small screws out of the door while trying very hard not to move the door at all.  I was so afraid that her tiny fingers would be broken.  They looked terrible.  At last I had the hinges above and below her hand free.  I was able to pull the doors apart and remove her hand.

Bless her little heart.  We ran to the kitchen to run it under cold water, then grabbed an ice pack.  I changed her diaper, wrapped her in her blanket, wrapped her tiny, purple fingers in the ice pack, and held her while her sobbing slowly subsided and she fell asleep.

As I held this sleeping angel, I thought about what had just happened, and felt overwhelmed with gratitude for little lesson in faith that she had just demonstrated.

My daughter cried the entire time that I was trying to remove her fingers from the door.  She was in terrible pain.  But she trusted me.  She trusted me when I had to run AWAY from her in order to get the tools I needed to help her.  She trusted me when I left her on one side of the door and went to sit on the other side to take the screws out.  She trusted me when she couldn’t see me.  She trusted me when I told her I was working on it and that we would have her hand free in just a minute.  And she trusted me to help her fingers feel better once they were out.  I can still hear her little voice in my mind as she paused in her crying to say “Otay” each time I reassured her that what I was doing would ultimately help.  She believed me.  And although she was in genuine distress, she accepted what I was doing as sufficient.  Sure, she wanted her fingers out, but she held on until it was over (really, what choice did she have?).  Not for one minute did she feel betrayed or forgotten.

After watching her anxiously yesterday, I am grateful that my little girl’s fingers appear to be ok.  They are swollen, but today even that is almost gone.   She says that they are “still ouchie” but she’s using her hand normally and not favoring it at all.  I feel so very thankful that these precious fingers are unmarred.  So thankful for an answered prayer.


Last night those precious little fingers decided to help me load the dishwasher.  It was so much fun to clean the kitchen together, just the two of us, and to see her delight in the experience.

filling dishwasher

I kept telling her to walk around to the other side, but she preferred to lay across the dishes to reach.  So cute!

filling dishwasher 2

She was so pleased with herself.

proud toddler

I’ve been earnestly seeking to find joy in the everyday moments that remind me what life is all about.  I’m happy that last night I did just that.  Instead of just having a clean kitchen, I had some moments when I was fully present for my daughter.  We made a special memory together, and THAT was the real reward.

I’m wishing you a day of simple joys!
Hopeful Homemaker

My Little Guy

There is something wonderful about a three year old boy.  Every house should have one, although I freely admit that he will age the house rather quickly.  But the joy of a three year old boy is one of those perfect things in life.


Picture this 3 year-old boy sitting on a church pew.  His slacks, white dress shirt, tie, vest and shoes are all perfect miniatures of what he’ll wear in 20 years.  Short blond hair sticking up in back.  He leans over and whispers, “Can you tickle my back?” and then promptly hunches forward on the very edge of the bench.  His head is down and his hands clasped together just like his 12 year old brother does when people tickle HIS back.

This image of a tiny body so intentionally being big tugs at my heartstrings.  So big, yet so small.  It is a shadow of what he’ll be in a not-so-distant future, a reminder of how brief the current stage really is.  The shadow is fleeting, however, as the 3 year old in him takes over and he begins swinging his legs, gently at first, and then with such vigor and energy that it is a challenge for him to maintain his delicate balance on the edge of the bench.  And all the while, in perfect rhythm, he reaches over ever 15 seconds or so (without looking up) to scratch his sister’s dress.  Often enough to distress her but not often enough to cause an outright disturbance.  I marvel again at how intuitively he has mastered the art of being a boy.

I came home from church resolved to pause and hunt for some pictures to document this darling little guy, my little boy who stands on the threshold of getting big.  He”ll be turning four in a couple of  months, and already I see him changing.  I want to try to capture him in my memory as he is now before the change has taken place and I have a hard time remembering.

Trenton running

He is running, always running.

He has a deep, raspy little voice.  He says the cutest things.  His most famous line: “Can SOMEONE move the SUN, please!”

boy blocking sun

To him, the purpose of every song or story is to have the good guy survive some sort of crisis.  This was a conversation before Christmas:

boy:  “Hey, Mom, have you ever seen Frosty the Snowman?”
mom:  “Yes, have you?”
boy:  “Yup.  It’s a toy.  Do you want me to sing it to you?”
mom:  “Please!”
boy:  “Frosty the snowman went out to play.  But lots of big armies went out to chase him!  So he ran away and got on a roof and then he was okay.”

Now, just read that song again to the tune of Frosty the Snowman and picture a happy little boy singing in a raspy little voice as he hits and then misses the melody just a bit.  Hilarious!  (Not to mention cute!)


He is the child who, upon waking up in the morning, sneaks out of bed and down the stairs to surprise/startle us with a big loud “Raaaar!”


He is also the boy who wants the same thing to eat all day long:  “Something.”  He spends a lot of time refusing whatever I offer him while he holds out for his “something.”  Here is  a typical conversation.

Little guy:  “I want something to eat.”
Mom:  “I’m glad to hear that.  We’ll have dinner in a minute.”
Little guy: “I don’t want dinner! (falls on floor in despair)  I want something!”

I’m pretty sure that “something” translates into sweet/crunchy/empty calorie/junk food/snack.


This little guy loves books.  Duck on a Bike has been his favorite for a long, long time  but Winnie the Pooh is ranking up there right  now too.  Most especially the scene when Piglet falls on his balloon.

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He prefers to wear his shoes on the wrong feet.  We try, try, try to get them on the right feet, but he usually takes them off and switches them back to the wrong feet.  He also has no problem with shoes that don’t match.


He loves to be tickled.  He loves kisses.  I like to give him all my kisses and tickle him at the same time.


He loves to race me.  He wants to beat me up the stairs, to the table, to the car, everywhere.  I confess that I encourage it because it gets him moving.  I love his laughter as I follow, hot on his heels.  Recently he told me, “Moms aren’t allowed to beat.  Only boys are.”


He is very creative.  Take, for instance, the hole he made in his shirt pocket for a holster.


It didn’t make for a very fast draw.


He loves swords, sword fights, and “guys” of any kind.  Playmobil is the all-time #1 toy in our house, and he loves them as much as all the older ones did/do.  He is ALWAYS up for a good sword fight.


He is also usually up for a quick snuggle in my lap.  I love that he’s still little enough to want me to hold him.


He has, at age three, already mastered the art of bugging girls.  I admit that I’ve never seen a boy so young get this one so well.  (Understand that I do not make that statement casually; I grew up with 5 brothers.)  Sandwiched between two older sisters and two younger sisters, he is FULLY AWARE of the power he can have over a girl with just the right look.  He can literally send his older sister running and screaming with just a look from 20 feet away.  And when that happens, what’s a boy to do but chase her?


He loves to be strong.  He loves to tell me that he’s going to grow up and be bigger than me.  He loves to make up categories to be master of.  A recent category:  “I’m really strong that I can get down babies that can walk and talk and that are named _____ from off of your bed.”


He loves to brush his teeth.  He makes it take a long time.


I love the answer he gives me every time I tell him he’s supposed to stay little.  “What’s the big idea!?  Who gave you permission to grow, anyway?”  I ask.  He smiles at me with that patient smile that three year old boys sometimes give their mothers and simply says “Jesus.”  And we hug.


He’s good at saying “sorry.”  Because when you’re a three year old boy, you get a lot of practice saying it.


Boy, oh boy, do I love my little guy!

Real Life Mathematics


vintage flashcards

I’m sitting here helping my 5 year old with her kindergarten math homework.
Two of the children who are SUPPOSED to be emptying dishwashers and cleaning the kitchen before dinner are currently having a sword fight with wooden spoons.
Someone is crying.
Someone else is yelling.
Another cute little person is whining.

My kitchen is a mess.
My family room is a mess.
My ears are ringing.
I’m behind on laundry.
I’m behind on everything.

And I keep thinking:
Wouldn’t it be nice if 8 didn’t really add up to 8?
I mean, I love each of my children to pieces and cannot imagine life without any of them.
We intended to have a big family.
Seriously, all eight of them are keepers.

BUT…. sometimes I wish that they could all be here without the natural consequences of the number 8.
I wish we could have the mess of, say, three.
Or the laundry of 5.
Or the noise levels of two.
The grocery bill of 4.

Yup.
Sometimes I really wish that the mathematics of a large family didn’t mean that the messes, the expenses, the laundry, and especially the noise levels seem to be exponentially larger.

Yet all I can do is wish.
Real life math.  Sometimes it really stinks.

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