Category: Yearly Goals

Here we are, half way through the year.  Crazy.  I wish I could say I’m half way through my goals, but that is not the case.  Still, in some areas we’re doing much better than we were in January.

It’s also July, the only month of the year when I get my children entirely to myself.  The school year infringes on every other month to some degree, so July is special.

We’ve spent a wonderful week at the beach, with some of the most perfect days I can remember in many years.  The ocean breeze, cool water and endless sand have bewitched us all, making us wish the beach was ours year round.  We’ve slept in cramped spaces and played in wide open ones.  We’ve made memories.  We’ve stopped our share of traffic with our numbers which is always amusing.  There’s nothing like watching people out of the corner of your eye as they count heads and drop their jaws.  It’s like living in the children’s book “Make Way for Ducklings” except that we’re all people.

Most of all I’ve treasured our time on the beach, watching the color of the water change throughout the day, enjoying beautiful sunsets together.  I sighed to myself and whispered, “This is low tide.  Relax and enjoy it.”  And I have.  I’m learning to change gears.   It’s been a wonderful week.

I haven’t worried too much about progress since this is our annual vacation but I can say that I’ve eaten really wisely this week, which feels good.  Life is good.  We’ll soon be back in Utah to experience summer there, but the break has been heavenly.

We’re spending the 4th of July with my husband’s family which will be fun.  I always hate to be out of town for the 4th of July but we’re making our traveling holiday memorable.

I hope you have a wonderful 4th of July!

Jennifer

Wow, week 25 has come and gone.  Where have the weeks gone?

June is almost over.  The cool weather slowly gives way to warm and then in a moment it’s hot.  We reluctantly closed our windows and turned on the air conditioning this week when our kids just couldn’t fall asleep.  Nice as it is to have the cool air indoors I’ve missed waking to the sound of a symphony of birds outside our windows.

Habits:

We’re working hard on the habit of obedience at our house.  It’s really my number one goal for the summer.  It also means that we’re making progress in many housekeeping areas which is a relief.  I’m not naturally good at teaching my children how to work but am trying to improve.   I realize that too often I’ve worked quietly while they’ve played because it gives me joy to see them play together in healthy ways, especially when I feel like our busy lives don’t allow enough time for it.  My natural inclination to seek some quiet moments hasn’t helped.  Sometimes cleaning alone is the most privacy I have in a day and I need to welcome the noise and bring the children in for what I’m doing.  I’ve made a mistake in so doing, and am trying to fix it.

Reading.  I’m reading a lot and am happy with the pace at which I’m making my way through the heavy historical reading I’m so drawn to.  In an act of great discipline I read a novel last week as well.  More on that soon.

Creativity:  I found time to do a little sewing (thanks to a deadline) and have tried a few recipes.

Finishing:  This week I finished two projects that needed attention.

Maintaining:  I feel good about my work in our yard and am grateful I find it so enjoyable.

Exercise:  I did better this week and particularly enjoyed a fun walk with my dear friend Jana.  It was a great morning (thanks, my friend!)

Thoughtfulness & Service:  I just realized that yesterday was another friend’s birthday and I didn’t make it to her house before we drove out of town again.  (Sorry Julene!)  I’ll have to repent of that when we get back.

Changing gears:  This habit wasn’t one I had chosen when I started the year, but it’s become something I’m working at daily.  I’m earnestly trying to relax and enjoy what is going on in the present without being preoccupied by other worries and concerns.  I had a few times when I wasn’t successful at this but I feel that I’m really learning to relax and enjoy the moment, then get back to serious work when it’s time.

Journals:  I’ve fallen off this habit as my reading has picked up.  I’m going to work on that this week.

And so, while I should have come up with a more scientific way to measure these rather ambiguous goals (so like me), I feel like I’m lengthening my stride somewhat and I like the feel of it.

We’re in Newport Beach for our annual week at the beach.  I love the sounds of cars and people walking by the house to get to the sand.  I love the smell, the sights, the ocean, the house.  But the stilled voice of my Grandpa was more than I could take.  We pulled in last night, got out of the car, opened the garage, went in the house and I found myself wandering around.  I realized I was feeling anxious because I hadn’t yet heard his wonderful laugh and his “Hi Jen!”  It was more than I could handle and while my family ran to the beach I stayed in the house and had a good cry.  My three year old daughter cried with me while she said “I love you so much Mommy” over and over again.   I have visited this house all my life, and every time he’s been here to greet us.  Until now.  And it hurts.  I miss him so much and hope he is able to see how much we love and appreciate him.

So we’ll enjoy the beach with all our hearts because that’s what he would want us to do.

Jennifer

Happy Father’s Day!  I hope it’s been a great one for all the fathers in your life.   Ours has been a fairly normal day with children bouncing back and forth between wonderful and frustrating.   I had a nice talk with my one in a million Dad and hope that my efforts in our home here allowed my husband an enjoyable day.

The week has been so busy that it’s hard to believe we drove home from California on Monday.  Part of me wants to scream with frustration that June is more than half  over yet at the same time I know there’s nothing to be done about it.   We’re in the crazy years and we’d better enjoy them.

Habits.   Hmmm.   With the children we’re focusing on the habit of obedience.   Obedience not because it makes sense to you or because you agree with your parents or because they gave you enough incentive to listen to them.  Obedience because it is the right thing, because sometimes your parents can’t explain to you why something needs to be done, obedience because it is proper and respectful.  We’ve slid too far down the path of leniency in this area and are hiking back up.

The children are also doing well with their gardens.  I love watching them!

We need to work on swimming.   I purchased a family summer pass to our local fitness center so we can improve.

Personally I am doing really well in a couple of areas.   I decided this year I need to spend more time outdoors.  I’m doing a lot of gardening (loving every minute) and we’re eating dinner beneath our cherry tree almost every night.

I’m also reading a great deal.  Other things aren’t happening as a result (sewing and more housekeeping would be nice) but I feel good about investing in my own education and believe that my children need to see me slow down and read good books alongside them.

The whole struggle with things, laundry, messes, etc. still gets to me.  I want to get things to a manageable place and feel discouraged that my progress is so slow.  I keep reminding myself to work at it when it’s appropriate, but to change gears and enjoy my children when it’s time to do that.  I had some very sweet moments with my youngest three this week.

One thing the week did NOT provide was adequate sleep.   Our son leaves at 5 a.m. for his High Adventure camp so I’d best get some rest.  I hope your week is wonderful.

Jennifer