15 Days of Happiness :: Memory Lane


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One of my goals is to sort through all the photos, school papers and memorabilia that have come with 8 children and almost 17 years of marriage.   I was going through a stack of homework from my oldest son when he was 8 years old and, tucked in all the math assignments, I found these pictures.

I stood there, swept back in time to this photo shoot, done by my neighbor, and felt overwhelmed by how young and innocent they all look.  We only had six then, and they look so little!  In some ways it was so long ago, and in others it was yesterday.  Looking through these photographs softened my heart towards a couple of them who have been a real struggle lately, and generally made the day more precious.  I realized that in another 7 years I’ll be looking at this year’s pictures with the same longing.

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I found another folder, full of old family photos.  My grandparents, who are now gone, my mother as an infant, all reminded me that life is always changing.  I’ll never get this stage back so I’d better enjoy it now.

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Then came this photo, a gift from a good friend, of my oldest three children when #1 was just a few months older than #8 is now.   As I thumbed through these photographs, all of a sudden I didn’t care how many papers were sorted that day.  I remembered what really matters, and remembered how fun and sweet they all were as babies.

When I walked upstairs a few minutes later, I felt happier.   They are mine and I love them.  Today is a good day.  Right now is the time to smile at them, love them, enjoy them, and treasure the everyday that will someday fade into the past.  My unexpected walk down memory lane changed my heart.

I hope you’ll look through some old photos today.  Let yourself be reminded how many good things your life has been full of, and face what lies ahead of you with new gratitude and determination to enjoy it!

Happy living, Jennifer *This post is part of a short series of posts on happiness.

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15 Days of Happiness :: Plant a Garden


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Today we added a garden area about 30 x 30 feet to our yard.  It has always been the plan, but we’ve never taken care of it in time to plant.  I can’t tell you how happy this project makes me.  At last, somewhere for my squash to run without choking other plants (they’ve been in the flowerbeds for the past 2 summers) and somewhere to plant pumpkins!  It’s not fancy, or very pretty, but the soil is good and all the plants I started back in February are now in the ground.   The watering is all hooked up and automatic so we can leave town and have it taken care of.

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This was a big project.  It took us all day, and earned us some sunburns, tired muscles and headaches.  But it was worth it.  The children also planted vegetables in their garden boxes and I hope they learn good things from it.  (Some of them will learn the lesson of why we don’t crowd our gardens this year.)

I’m already excited for the tomatillos, tomatoes, peppers and squash.  I find myself wishing we could fast forward to our end of summer bounty and meal plans right away.  I’m eyeing all kinds of awesome looking vegetable dishes online.

My happiness project today was tackling something big.  And having an awesome husband who worked with me and didn’t quit until it was all done.  We haven’t had time for something like this in too long, and I’m glad we made good use of it.  I really believe that planting a garden is a healing experience.  It connects us to all the generations of the past whose survival depended on sowing seeds.  We learn great things from watching tiny seeds develop into fruitful plants, and the joy of harvesting what you grow yourself is a singular thing.

I hope you’ll plant a garden this year.  Or make time for a big project that you can stand back and enjoy for a long time.

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15 Days of Happiness :: Pull Some Weeds


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My peonies are bulging with promise and covered with more soon-to-be blooms than I had hoped for.  I planted several more of them last year, but the craziness of injuries in our home cost me precious hours in the yard, and the new flowerbeds we worked on last spring were taken over by weeds quickly.  In some spots the weeds were as tall as my peonies and it’s been driving me crazy to think that they’ll bloom and I won’t even be able to enjoy their beauty because they’re obscured by all the weeds.

Today I spent time in the yard pulling weeds.  As I worked I thought about how happiness is often work, or at least that work is what most often brings happiness.  I watch my children grow and struggle with the concept that happiness is non-stop pleasure and fun.  It’s a concept that dominates much of our society, but I’m a firm believer that pleasure and happiness aren’t the same thing.  I’ve seen people bored to death with pleasure because they’ve made a job of it and what they desperately need is work to do.  Work brings happiness.

My work in the yard didn’t rid me of every weed, but I focused my efforts on clearing the space around the beauty I want to enjoy.  I’ll spend all summer working away at the weeds and that’s ok.  What I accomplished brought a smile to my face and satisfaction to my heart.  I’m ready for the show of massive blooms that my peonies are about to provide.

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As I pondered this post, I’m aware that not everyone has literal weeds on their property.  It occurred to me that we all have weeds.  Some of them grow in the flowerbeds, or between the cracks in our sidewalks.  Other weeds grow in our habits and our relationships.  So pull some weeds today.  Perhaps you can pull the weed of cynicism and sarcasm in a relationship with your spouse or teenager.  Perhaps you can pull the weed of jealousy by sincerely complimenting someone.  Weeds obscure the beauty of our relationships with others if allowed to grow and multiply.   It’s a project to get rid of them, to change our habits, but it can be done one weed at a time, one kind word at a time, one sincere gesture at a time.   Eventually we get them out by the root, but weeding is a never-ending task both in life and in gardening.   It’s part of mortality.

I’m reminded of the quote from Benjamin Franklin which says, “I was surprised to find myself so much fuller of Faults than I had imagined, but I had the Satisfaction of seeing them diminish.”

So grab your trowel (and your timer if you feel too busy).  Go outside.  Soak up some sunshine and get your hands in the dirt.  While you do it, examine your heart and see if there isn’t a thistle you can uproot somewhere else.  Think small and simple; don’t expect too much.  Just do something.
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