15 Days of Happiness :: Pull Some Weeds


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My peonies are bulging with promise and covered with more soon-to-be blooms than I had hoped for.  I planted several more of them last year, but the craziness of injuries in our home cost me precious hours in the yard, and the new flowerbeds we worked on last spring were taken over by weeds quickly.  In some spots the weeds were as tall as my peonies and it’s been driving me crazy to think that they’ll bloom and I won’t even be able to enjoy their beauty because they’re obscured by all the weeds.

Today I spent time in the yard pulling weeds.  As I worked I thought about how happiness is often work, or at least that work is what most often brings happiness.  I watch my children grow and struggle with the concept that happiness is non-stop pleasure and fun.  It’s a concept that dominates much of our society, but I’m a firm believer that pleasure and happiness aren’t the same thing.  I’ve seen people bored to death with pleasure because they’ve made a job of it and what they desperately need is work to do.  Work brings happiness.

My work in the yard didn’t rid me of every weed, but I focused my efforts on clearing the space around the beauty I want to enjoy.  I’ll spend all summer working away at the weeds and that’s ok.  What I accomplished brought a smile to my face and satisfaction to my heart.  I’m ready for the show of massive blooms that my peonies are about to provide.

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As I pondered this post, I’m aware that not everyone has literal weeds on their property.  It occurred to me that we all have weeds.  Some of them grow in the flowerbeds, or between the cracks in our sidewalks.  Other weeds grow in our habits and our relationships.  So pull some weeds today.  Perhaps you can pull the weed of cynicism and sarcasm in a relationship with your spouse or teenager.  Perhaps you can pull the weed of jealousy by sincerely complimenting someone.  Weeds obscure the beauty of our relationships with others if allowed to grow and multiply.   It’s a project to get rid of them, to change our habits, but it can be done one weed at a time, one kind word at a time, one sincere gesture at a time.   Eventually we get them out by the root, but weeding is a never-ending task both in life and in gardening.   It’s part of mortality.

I’m reminded of the quote from Benjamin Franklin which says, “I was surprised to find myself so much fuller of Faults than I had imagined, but I had the Satisfaction of seeing them diminish.”

So grab your trowel (and your timer if you feel too busy).  Go outside.  Soak up some sunshine and get your hands in the dirt.  While you do it, examine your heart and see if there isn’t a thistle you can uproot somewhere else.  Think small and simple; don’t expect too much.  Just do something.
*This post is part of a short series on happiness.  You can find a complete list of all posts in the series here .  For the previous post, click here .  For the next post, click here.

15 Days of Happiness :: Paint Something

With the change of every season, I often feel tempted to go shopping for pretty new home accessories.  Stores and catalogs are transformed by seasonal color and designs that make the coming season feel even more exciting and beautiful.   They plan it that way, and while I believe it’s fine to update things now and then, I also know that if we update our fashion at the rate the retailers hope we will, the result will bring pleasure at first, but will end up robbing us of happiness in the end.   There is nothing wrong with liking pretty things; the fault comes in buying too many of them.  Falling prey to retail therapy brings more stuff into our already cluttered homes, gives us more to store/maintain/care for, and usually ends up being a roadblock to our long term dreams by pinching us financially.

One of my strategies to benefit from the gorgeous advertising without sacrificing my goals is to paint something.  It’s usually the color that sucks me in, and I’m particularly vulnerable to the colors of spring when they hit the stores.  My favorite pictures this year came from the Wisteria catalog that arrived in my mailbox covered with every shade of blue – my favorite.

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Wanting something new, and wanting it to be blue, I decided to “shop my house.”  In the basement I remembered a votive candle holder that my sister gave me 3 (yes, three!) years ago.  The plan was to paint it all along, but I never got around to it.  I  used paint I had on hand from another project and got started.  My candle holder looked like this:

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Pretty, but not me, especially with the metal inserts.  I decided to simply paint over all of it, and a few coats later I had this:

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I also decided to put it to use with flowers instead of candles.

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This project allowed me to be creative, to use something I already had, to display the flowers from my yard indoors, to save my money, and still feel like I had something new and exciting to enjoy.

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Isn’t it wonderful what a little paint can do!  Perhaps you’ve got something you can update, too.  Making home more beautiful – and doing it with self-discipline – is a happy thing!

Have a great day!

Jennifer *This post is part of a short series on happiness.  You can find the complete list of posts in the series here .  To read the previous post, click here .  For the next post, click here.

15 Days of Happiness :: Do Something You Enjoy


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This morning I woke up and knew I should hit the list, get going and make sure I was super-effective all day.

I got the children off to school, made a phone call, and then I couldn’t do it.

We live in a society that expects us to be constantly productive, and in all honesty I enjoy being productive, staying busy, etc.  But it’s true that if we don’t have any margin, if we’re scheduling every minute of every day, we’re going to burn out.  That’s the feeling I had this morning.  A week and a half left of school and I kind of don’t care because I’m burning out.  We can’t function on empty.  This morning I decided to take control of my schedule by making time to do something enjoyable.

I took my timer to my sewing table and made a quilt block.  Then I set it again and made another.  (You can see the blocks here.
)  I feel happier because I allowed myself to do something I enjoy.  It wasn’t urgent, it wasn’t related to a deadline or a school, and it wasn’t necessary.   But it did the trick.

Today I hope you’ll find even a few minutes to do something that is enjoyable to you, something that perhaps feels like an indulgence you can’t afford right now (I’m talking time, not money).  Decide how much time you are willing to give it and then let yourself relax and enjoy it.  Now I feel refreshed and ready to jump back in, which is a good thing because my afternoon is packed!

Good luck!
Jennifer *This post is part of a short series on happiness.  You can find a complete list of all posts in the series here.
For the previous post, click here .  For the next post, click here .

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